Tips For Young Fathers

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Tips For Young Fathers

By Dylan T Riley  
Hopefully, if you are reading this, you are a man between the ages of 18 and 25 that is about to become a father. In this article, I will elaborate on three helpful tips for becoming a young father. Spend as much time as possible with the child, become financially independent, and constantly be focusing on your future.
When you are a young man about to become a father, your family and friends get scared for you and they might say hurtful words. You need to block out all the negativity and take in all the positivity. Think about how you are about to have a mini you, how you can teach your child so many wonderful things, and how you get to watch them grow into their own person. Your number one goal is spending as much time as you can with your child. One of my favorite sayings is "you get out, what you put in." Well with a child, you get out a thousand times what you put in. Wake up with them in the morning, teach them how crawl, sing songs, catch them when they fall. It's the simple things that truly matter and spending time with your child benefits you just as much as it does them.
The day I told my mom that my girlfriend was pregnant, she said something to me that I will never forget, "if you are going to make grown up decisions, then it is time for you to be a grown up." This meant no more financial help from my mom and I had no idea what to do. While your child is still small, do not go get full-time job even though it might make you the most money. Find a part-time job working no more than 30 hours about 3 to 5 days a week. If you find yourself short on money, start doing side jobs. I was blown away when I found out I could make one hundred dollars within a couple of hours. Let people know that you need money and are willing to work small jobs. You will be surprised when you see how many individuals will say they will pay you for your help.
In the Past two years of being a father I have been, broke, depressed and have hit rock bottom more than a few times. What has kept me going is constantly telling myself "this is only my current situation." As a young father, I can only hope that you want to better your life just as much as your child's. Do whatever you got to do to make it happen, whether it is going to school, learning a trade, or even playing a sport. If it is going to benefit your future, then you have to make it happen for you and your family's sake. One thing I have learned is that, your child will be happy if you are happy and can provide food and shelter for them.
I grew up without a father, so I told myself when I have a kid I am going to be the best father I can be, and every day I stride to do so. Being a father is not an easy road, I learn something new every day. I was 21 years young when I found out a girl I knew for only 3 weeks was pregnant. I lived in a fraternity house, I didn't have a dollar to my name, and I drank beer like it was water. I had to grow up fast and learn a lot about myself and what I can accomplish. I can honestly say it is the best thing that has ever happened to me and I would not change for the world. If you listen to these three simple steps, I know that being a young father will be the best thing that has ever happened to you too.

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